Couples work with Alexandra and Raul, online
Couples work with Alexandra and Raul, online
When we work with couples, we do it as a couple—Ale & Raul—because we believe that healing relationships often requires both the feminine and masculine perspectives.
We’ve been together for 5 years, and through our own journey, we’ve learned that every couple faces challenges. So why not reach out to another couple who not only understands this from the inside but is also trained as professional psychologists, offering evidence-based therapy?
In almost every culture, there’s the figure of a godparent or elder who guides couples through the ups and downs of marriage. We see this as a timeless need for support that’s only growing stronger. If you’re looking for a safe space to heal the wounds in your relationship, we can be more than just modern-day godparents—we can walk alongside you with heart and expertise.
What to expect from couple therapy? Two people just listening to your fights? Not really. The therapeutic process is about understanding the dance you and your partner are dancing. We’re not so much interested in the specific fights, but rather in what happens between you during those moments—what patterns show up, how you each react, and what the dynamic is becoming. For example, one common pattern we often see is the demand–withdraw cycle—where one partner pushes for connection (demand), and the other pulls away (withdraw). This cycle can show up in many forms, like demand–demand (both partners chasing) or withdraw–withdraw (both shutting down). In therapy, we slow down the dance and help you see it, feel it, and change it—together.
Yes—and we’ll talk about this together in our first session. There’s no rigid formula here, but a process we co-create. Often, we recommend starting with a session together, then one individual session for each of you, followed by joint sessions again. This gives space for both shared experience and personal reflection. But ultimately, the rhythm is yours to shape. We’ll decide together what feels safe and helpful. And remember—you can always bring in Ale, Raul, or both, if that supports your process. We stay open.
That’s not a problem—it’s actually the work. If that happens in session, it’s not a barrier, it’s an invitation. We’re not here to perform connection, we’re here to meet the real dynamics that show up between you. So if one of you shuts down, or gets defensive—that’s gold. That’s exactly what happens at home, right? And now we get to explore it together, in real time, without judgment. It becomes an opportunity—for understanding, for slowing down, for noticing what’s underneath. So when that happens, we don’t avoid it.
There’s no one-size-fits-all path. For some, the first step is turning inward—reconnecting with yourself before you reach for the other. For others, that’s already been tried (or doesn’t feel possible right now). Maybe the first move is simply noticing: “Something’s missing.” Or realizing you’ve already noticed, but didn’t know what to do next. That’s the beauty of therapy—it’s not a prescription. If it were, we could just hand you a page and be done. But closeness is built through presence, not steps. And the therapeutic alliance—that’s our foundation. From there, we begin.
There are some experiences that shift everything. Parenthood, illness, depression, trauma—they don’t just add stress; they rewrite your story. So the question isn’t “How do we fix it?”—it’s “How do we meet each other again, here, in this new landscape?” Therapy becomes the space where we acknowledge the grief, the exhaustion, the anger, the silence… and slowly, rediscover tenderness too. You don’t have to go back to who you were—you’re allowed to become something new, together.
That’s actually more common than you might think. Change doesn’t usually happen in sync—it’s messy, uneven, human. One of you might be sprinting, the other still warming up. That’s okay. We explore what’s underneath that difference—fear? fatigue? past hurt? And we work to find pace, not pressure. In therapy, we don’t force symmetry—we build understanding. Often, what looks like resistance is actually protection. And once that’s seen, it starts to soften.
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